The Three-Tongued Trident of Self-Sabotage
Healing the Fear of Money & Receiving
When it comes to money and receiving, three prominent fears often hold us back:
Fear of Being Seen
Fear of Rejection
Success Intolerance
These three fears become deeply embedded within us, forming the primary pillars that can sabotage our financial and business growth. When unaddressed, they function as an invisible trident, piercing through our self-worth, abundance mindset, and ability to receive. They are not merely mindset blocks; they are rooted in trauma, stored within the nervous system, and reinforced by our subconscious beliefs.
The Fear of Being Seen, at its core, is a survival response. If we have experienced judgment, ridicule, or punishment for being our true selves in childhood, our nervous system learns that visibility is dangerous. This belief embeds itself into our psyche, making us hesitant to step fully into our power.
In business, this manifests as avoiding visibility - procrastinating on launching offers, hesitating to speak our truth, or fearing that success will attract criticism. This fear whispers:
"What if they see the real me and don’t like me?" or "What if I become a target?"
But when we heal this wound, we begin to feel safe in our self-expression. We recognise that visibility is not a threat but an opportunity for deeper connection. Through nervous system regulation and trauma healing, we can teach our bodies that it is safe to be seen, to be successful, and to be acknowledged.
The Fear of Rejection is one of the deepest wounds a person can carry. Many of us equate rejection with abandonment, triggering childhood experiences where we felt unwanted, unworthy, or unloved. Our subconscious mind clings to these memories, associating rejection with pain, humiliation, and even survival danger.
In money and business, this fear can manifest as:
Avoiding sales or outreach because "what if they say no?"
Lowering prices out of fear that no one will pay our worth.
Over-delivering and over-giving to ensure we are "liked"
Taking rejection personally and making it mean something about our value
When we heal this fear, we recognise that rejection is simply redirection - it is not a statement about our worth. We stop personalising external responses and instead focus on alignment, trusting that the right opportunities and people will resonate with us. Healing the nervous system from past rejection trauma allows us to experience rejection without it overwhelming our self-worth.
Success Intolerance: fear of failure is widely discussed, but the fear of success is an even greater block. Success intolerance is when we unconsciously push away abundance because it feels unsafe. If we have only known struggle, chaos, or instability, then success may feel foreign, even threatening. We unconsciously sabotage financial growth because success disrupts our internal status quo. We may associate success with:
More responsibility and pressure.
Losing love or belonging if we "outgrow" those around us.
Guilt over surpassing our parents or family’s financial status.
Fear of being envied, attacked, or judged.
Healing success intolerance requires deep nervous system work to expand our capacity to receive, hold, and sustain abundance. It involves gradually acclimating to ease and wealth, teaching the body that success is not dangerous but natural.
Self-sabotage around money and receiving is not simply a mindset issue; it is a nervous system issue. The emotional body holds onto past wounds, and until we process and integrate them, they will continue to influence our financial and business decisions. When we heal trauma, we heal the nervous system. When we heal the nervous system, we heal the emotional body. And when we heal the emotional body, we open ourselves to abundance, ease, and expansion.
This your invitation to be a part of my Money and Manifestation container - Your Most Abundant Self. Here we meet every week for coaching and I guide you through the Healing of your nervous system, to receive_manifest_hold_create more Money!
I help you through -
Somatic work to regulate the nervous system and release stored trauma
Inner child healing to reprogram limiting beliefs formed in early years
Rewiring subconscious patterns that keep us trapped in scarcity cycles
Energy work and embodiment practices to expand our receiving capacity
I invite you to make 2025 your Most Abundant year! Here is the link to all the details - https://iscahwellness.kit.com/12a1ade2d6
Love,
Suniti